the ties that bind
It has been over a year since my mother died of brain cancer and I had a moment of realization today about the strength of the ties that bound us. Beginning as we had, by replicating long standing family patterns of codependence, I spent most of the years between moving away to college and my divorce pruning and thinning that connection. And though the thickness of that connection changed from something resembling an anchor chain to something closer to fishing line, its absence has revealed just how much strength was left in that little bit of girth that tethered our lives together. I miss her. Eric